When are they old enough to understand what it is, why they are there, the whole thing?
And how do you go about doing that?
Do you have a set place in each room that they have to sit in?
Do you just put them in a corner some where?
And when are kids old enough for me to tell them "This is what's for dinner, either eat it or go hungry."?
I would love to hear your expertise! Please share!
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I start time outs around the age of one. We just use a corner. It has worked with the oldest and youngest, not the middle child though. Start explaining and have them say sorry when they are done...that helps. Brent didn't even know who to say sorry but knew a pat on the head or hug worked. About the eating thing...I wait until a little older, but I don't give them what they want always. I say this is it and have them wait. When they are hungry they will eat it generally (when they are younger). Hope that makes sense. Oh, the joys of parenting.
yeah I do time outs with jared and he's 21 months but I started doing them with him when he was 1.. I make sure that nothing fun is around them and that they sit there till they calm down.. If time out doesnt work I do spank but thats your call... And I do the "this is whats for dinner" with both of them.. and ive been doing that for awhile... Kids understand more then we give them credit for.. I put a twist on the dinner thing though, if I dish it then they dont have to eat all of it, but if they dish it the have to eat all of it... But one thing to remember is that each child is different time outs might not work for nate so just find something that will work as punishment for his personality.. thats a lot haha
Not that I'm a mom but here's what I've heard works for dinner: they try to get them to eat whatever they made but if they won't, they know where the PB&J's and know how to make them. Those are the two options. Dinner or sandwich. It allows them to take responsibility for their decision, and they can make their own food if they don't want yours. Nathan still might be a bit little but it might work in the future!
As for time out, I've heard that having a stair or a rug that is always the time out spot. That's all I know about that! Good luck!
I know you dont know me, but I went to H.S. with your hubby. I start doing time outs at 2 and do a min. per age. If I am upstairs then it is by the front door, (which is probley not the best place incase someone comes over), but it work for me, and if I am in our down stairs its the third stair from the bottom. when I put them in time out I tell them why they are in time out, after the time out it over I tell them again why they are in time out, and they have to say they are sorry, then hugs and kisses. (yes this is what supper nanney does.) if they dont say sorry then its stay in time out again untill they say sorry.
As for eating my kids eat what I fix, if they dont eat it then thats there choice, I figure if they are hungry they will eat whats put in front of them.
hope that helps you some.
Would love to know what you decide let us know.
I am still trying to work out the time-out thing for my kids. The best thing that I have learned is that you have to be consistent. That goes for the place, the rules that go with being put in time out (i.e. no crying, saying sorry ect.)and esspecially for the reasons why they get put in time out.
The eating thing is kind of a joke in my life. I hate it. Tyler is the pickiest eater I have ever seen. He only eats when he wants to eat, and he only eats what he wants to eat. He has been this way scine the first day he was born. The big thing with Tyler is that it is a power struggle. If he knows it is something I want him to eat then he wont do it. The few tricks that I have learned are: sometimes I will start eating something and then he will be interested enough in it to have his own, or I just put it on the table and sooner then later he will wlak by and see it sitting there and will start eating. I also try to be creative with what I give him, and how it looks. (I use cookie cutters for his sandwiches ect). Realy the best thing I can do is not turn it into a fight (which doesn't always work) and I don't give him any snacks until he eats his meals. Jackson is wonderful, he would eat anything that is put in front of him. Some of those ideas might be a little to old for Nathen, but you can taylor them to fit him. And if you find something that works well for you, let me know because most days I feel like I am going to go crazy with his eating habits. (sorry, I didn't mean to make that a book)
I start early I just don't leave them for too long. I use what ever is handy, chair, floor. What ever. I tell the kids what they did was wrong and make them say sorry to. Eventually they get it.
Again I start early with the eating to. If they don't eat then I don't push the issue, but then no snacks. If they are hungry you would be surprised what they will eat. Also try to eat on a regular schedule. Hope it helps.
I take my cues from Jaden to know when he is ready for something because not every kid is the same. I know that Jaden just started understanding when I say "no" to him. However, I can't sit him in a corner and tell him to stay there. He doesn't understand what I'm saying/doing. He knows I'm not happy with him, but he doesn't understand the concept of punishment or consequences yet...close, but not yet. Also, I try to keep in mind what might be making Jaden act badly. He is getting a couple teeth right now, so he's always grouchy. Discipline wouldn't make sense every 5 minutes because he's not always misbehaving just to be oppositional, he's just feeling like crap!
And with food, again, Jaden doesn't understand when I say "Here is what is for dinner, eat it or go hungry." I mean really, his vocabulary is very few words. So for me to get mad at him for not eating what I make him is a bit premature for Jaden. Besides, he's still trying lots of new foods he's never tasted before and he doesn't always like everything the first time he tries it. Also, when he's teething, I'm not going to make a dinner that might not feel good on the gums for him then expect him to eat it or go hungry.
There's my experience with Jaden. I would take your cues from Nathan. Because your son and my son who are the exact same age (minus a month) might be developing at different rates so it's hard for people to say that they started the time out thing at 15 months or 20 months or something because maybe their kids were ready at those ages, but yours might not be :-)
GOOD LUCK!!
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